Murder Of the Innocent Girls

In my perspective, both men and women are equal. You may not feel the same but ask yourself why? What is it that makes men superior to women? We are the same species, and DNA. In the weaker societies in India this is not considered to be true. Some people go to such an extent, that if their newborn child is a girl, they kill them. This is due to the prevalence of the disgraceful practice of an old Indian tradition called dowry. Dowry is the act of the bride’s side giving, money, land or expensive gifts to the bridegroom on their wedding day. Because this is still prevalent in some of the weaker societies in India, some families believe that the education and marriage of a daughter is a financial burden on them. For this reason they kill newborn, baby girls either before or just after birth. Every day, across the country 2,000 infants are killed. The current sex ratio in India is 914:1000. Is that fair? Your answer is most probably no, for this is clearly murder. This can have horrible effects such as imbalanced sex ratios and decrease in population. Women are equal to men, and deserve to be treated the same and be given the same opportunities, for women are an equal part of society. In this modern era they cannot be discriminated against. 

In today's day and age, women are just as important in society as men are. By evolving from times when women stayed at home and did not work, women are hold a strong status, equal men. Killing the female child is not only murder but also discriminating against women. Malala Yousafzai and activist for female education and the youngest-ever Nobel Prize laureate says, “ When God created man and woman, he was thinking, 'Who shall I give the power to, to give birth to the next human being?' And God chose woman. And this is the big evidence that women are powerful." This shows that there is no natural reason for women to be considered inferior to men but quite the contrary, women were chosen to reproduce humans. They should be treated with respect and treated the same way men are treated. However the most important reason why infanticide is bad is because it is simply murder of children. The dictionary definition of infanticide is ‘the crime of a mother killing her child within a year of birth’. Simply put, this is not civil and should be considered as murder. Pope Francis, the head of the Christian community says, “Life once conceived, must be protected with the utmost care; abortion and infanticide are abominable crimes.” This also suggests that babies, whether they are just born or not yet, are alive and infanticide is killing them and that this is no different than murder. They should be nurtured and appreciated and they should not be killed just because of gender. Ronald Reagan, the 40th President of the U.S.A. said, “Abraham Lincoln recognized that we could not survive as a free land when some men could decide that others were not fit to be free and should therefore be slaves. Likewise, we cannot survive as a free nation when some men decide that others are not fit to live and should be abandoned to abortion or infanticide.” This also shows that man cannot decide to kill a newborn child as it is human and killing it is a crime. It is not in their hands to kill. It is bad not to take care of that child but killing it is unacceptable. This killing leads to an inevitable and terrible effects. With a drastic decrease in the number of women, the number of mothers also decrease leading to a decrease in the country's population. This will inevitably lead to several problems for the country, the most important of which is that the living conditions will decline. This is because of the inadequate labor force which would have boosted the output and production of goods and services. This will also reduce the manpower and income, as well as investments. There is also the fact that this will result in fewer people in the army, who would be defending the country during time of war. E.A. Bucchianeri, a known author says “Abortion should be listed as a weapon of mass destruction against the voiceless.” This means that when a child is born, it knows nothing, it can say nothing. Yet, it is human and killing it is basically denying it it's human right- the right to live. These girls are meant to be the next generation but by killing them, they are limiting the next generation.

In conclusion, I feel that infanticide is a horrible crime that has drastic short term and long term effects. It could lead to several problems such as decrease in the population and also the decrease in the power and dignity of women. This is idea of infanticide is growing more and more have thousands of victims every day. Though it happens in first world countries as well, this seems to be a major problem in India. A valuable suggestion that should be taken into account is the idea of baby hatches. This idea has been taken up by several countries such as the U.S., UK, and several European countries. Baby hatches are safe places where a parent can leave their child without the fear of prosecution. They will then be looked after by the government and if possible, be placed with an adoptive family. The Ministry of Women and Child development should take this into consideration as it will help a lot of people, and save a lot of lives, helping us nurture and preserve the future generations.

Why You Should Give Your Teen More Independance

Dear parents,

I am here to tell you why you should give your child more independence and space while in their teenage years. Child independence is very important in a teen’s life during their transition into adulthood. Teens need to learn important life skills/lessons such as decision making, money saving and time management.

I have no experience in giving children independence because I don't have a child but I can just imagine how hard it must be letting them go. This is an important and difficult time in all parents lives, but for the teen it is a lot harder. They will feel happy and sad, excited but scared and most of all they will miss you being their ‘protector’. You as their parent and guardian have to help and guide them along the way.

Firstly, between the ages of 10 to 15 your child will be going through many mental changes. Your child is almost definitely going to make many mistakes as they grow up and start to discover/understand their true self. Making mistakes is definitely ok, actually, research shows that making mistakes is the best way to learn in life. A Raising Kids and Independence article says that, “Your child needs to make some mistakes, to explore and have new experiences. This will help him learn life’s lessons and continue to shape his brain’s development.” This shows how important it is to let your child be independant and discover things themselves, even if that means making mistakes along the way. It is Important to show you teen that you do not expect perfectness from them.

Secondly, teen’s need to learn important life skills such as decision making. A teen can not depend on their parents to make all their important decisions for them, because in their later life when they are in university or a job, they will have to make many important life changing decisions. It is very important that they learnt how to do these skills in their early life, where if they make a mad decision it won’t affect their life drastically, this comes with independence.

Thirdly, teen’s need to learn the skills of money saving. An interesting Investopedia article shows just one of the many reasons why it is important to save money. “If you get sick and need expensive health care that your insurance doesn’t cover, you’ll have a way to pay for it even though you can’t work while you’re getting treatment. And knowing that you have options because of the money you’ve socked away can give you even more peace of mind.” Other reasons for teens to save money, is to cover insurance, college funds, saving for housing, loans to be paid off and there are many more. Just think about this, do you really want your child to be depending on you for money, do you want your child to be living off bank loans or in debt.

My final reason why teens need to be given independance id for them to learn how to manage their time and not procrastinate. Encourage your teen to be responsible for his or her own time. Ask questions like, “How much time do you need for homework?” “How long to do you need to unwind after school?” If the answers to the question is “None” and “Until midnight”, you need to sit down with your teen and have a conversation about how to fit everything into an orderly time table. I am pretty sure you don’t want your child to be running around to classes late or have forgotten to finish important essays and not handing things in on time. A suggestion for helping your child from a Teenagers Independance article is, “You may want to let her try out her schedule through, say, one grading period. If grades go down, the schedule needs work and maybe more supervision from you.” There are many ways you can help your child manage time but sometimes you need to let them figure out a way themselves, something that works for them.

In conclusion, all though letting your child go and giving them more independence may be a scary and worrying time, it will greatly help them in the future. They will need to learn important life skills such as time management, money saving , and decision making. You can help them learn these but at some point they need to discover these things on their own but all the time with your encouragement and support, especially when they make mistakes. Always be there as their parent and protector in the hard times, have their back and support them when times get really though. But most importantly, don’t be afraid to sit down and talk with your child about how everything is going.

Thank you for reading,

From Nadia

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Technology Balance for Children

Every day children use technology without knowing the effects and influences of screens on their actions, moods, and bodies. This topic is hotly contested as parents often don’t know what is too much screen time and when to set limits. Yes, I know screens are fun and they most definitely pass the time easily, but many children do spend way too much time on them every day. While technology has a lot of positive effects, it is also important to ensure there is supervision and management put in place.

By now you are probably wondering what those negative effects of not supervising your child are. That is the focus of this letter. First of all, no screen supervision and letting your child have a lot of screen time creates addiction and emotional instability. The New York Times article Can Students Have Too Much Technology Time? says that video games are building anxiety that then turns into anger. This suggests that children, especially in their teen years, tend to have mood swings, and screens have a high risk of triggering them. Yes, some may argue that their children are not in their teen years yet and they won’t be for a while. However the article Video Game Rage by Victoria L. Dunckley, an adolescent and adult psychiatrist, quotes that “Mood swings may happen in the child's teen years, but headaches and possibly migraines happen to children of all ages.” (Dunckley, 2015). In conclusion, it is essential that parents need to know when the screens are harming their child mentally and physically, and they need to know when to put a stop to it.

Furthermore, many kids are just too young. Going out to dinner with my family, and looking around, I see babies even under the age of two on iPads and iPhones. They’re not learning to socialize. I feel very strongly about this as my parents grew up not using technology and they have taught me to manage my time on devices so that I learn many skills needed for the big world. The article Kids Spend Too Much Time on Technology quotes “68% of children under the age of two are on media every day.” (Cohen, 2016). This is significant and impacts self-regulation and attention skills necessary for learning. The article also says that many children in struggling families tend to have higher grades at the end of high school as they learn how to self-manage better and learn better time management skills. Children learning how to use technology, even before they have learned how to talk, brings attention to the point that screens are changing the next generation's social skills and everyday skills. This will harm the next society and change the way people communicate forever.

Finally, my last reason why supervision needs to be put into place is because technology limits the child’s creativity and imagination. Just think back to your childhood when you would walk outside and see children playing hopscotch and tag. Without technology supervision, the next society will be different as there is a likely chance you might not see any children outside playing those fun old games anymore. The article The Impact of Technology on Developing Children says that 75% of children have a television in their room, and 50% of North American households have their television on all day. One personal example of this is when I didn’t have a computer. I would always find something to do outside or inside depending on the weather. However now I’m often on my laptop, I feel that I have lost a bit of my imagination as sometimes I can’t think of anything to do. The article also quotes, “Technology limits necessary challenges that the body needs to learn how to handle.” (Wakefield, 2014). This idea is crucial as, even if we don’t want to admit it, we know that nothing good comes out of being couch potatoes.

In this day and age, technology is all around us and it seems impossible to avoid. However, it is clear that the overuse of technology can have serious negative effects, and supervision will help children avoid them for the long term.


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